However, one of the most difficult things
to do is learning to love yourself. Loving
yourself can be very difficult when you have limiting and derogatory messages
playing like a broken record repeating itself in your subconscious mind. Most of these messages are recorded during your
childhood, but their effects can be far reaching into your adult life! Did you know that you’re still being
influenced by the things your parents and others said to you decades ago?
When someone told you that you were no
good, you believed them. When someone
told you that you’d never amount to anything, you believed them. When someone told you that you were stupid or
had learning disabilities or that you were weird, you believed them. And you still believe them to this day
– even if you’re not consciously aware of these underlying beliefs and even
though you have perhaps proven them wrong by the achievements of your adult
life.
Is it possible to overcome old messages
and replace them with new, empowering messages?
Is it possible, so to speak, to write-over the old damaging record from
your past with new and motivating positive messages in the present? Yes! Here are three good ways for you to get started:
1) Romance yourself. What could this possible mean? Think about
the last love affair you had. At the
beginning you and your partner probably devoted a lot of time, attention and
affection to each other, right? You felt
passionate and swept away by the beauty of your partner and he/she probably
felt the same about you. One of the best
ways to learn to love yourself is to enter into a similar process – with
yourself! Treat yourself like
royalty! Do things that make you feel
happy. Hug yourself. Sweet-talk yourself. Buy yourself nice things. Spend quality time with yourself simply
because you deserve it. However, keep
these affections in balance and don’t become overly infatuated with yourself
literally and become a completely obnoxious person! Be comfortable with who you are --- right
now! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ufNOWvcfrE4
2) Explore your existing beliefs. You may suspect you have old, limiting
messages rattling around in your head but you may still be unsure about what
they are exactly. In order to discover
the beliefs that are holding you back, you may need to go on an
expedition. Begin exploring your existing
beliefs by writing in a journal. Give
yourself prompts or questions like these:
“My earliest memory of feeling stupid was . . .” “My mother always made me feel . . .” “My father always treated me like . . .” and
so on. The idea is to think back to an
earlier time in your life and see if you can discover when and where your
limiting beliefs got started. Then,
challenge those beliefs. Are they still
true? Were they ever true? Decide what you WANT to be true, and
begin to replace the old belief by focusing more on your new and improved
beliefs. Transform yourself into the
person YOU want to become and not the realization of those false
ideas from the past! Be honest with your
evaluation even if the truth hurts a little.
Don’t fear what you may learn about yourself but use this information to
become a better person. https://themomtrotter.com/how-to-understand-your-inner-self-and-get-empowered/
3) Emphasize your good qualities! When you have low self-esteem, you tend to
keep focusing on the things that are “wrong with you,” and dismissing the
things that you have going for you.
Start to turn this around by praising and encouraging yourself in your
self-talk. When you accomplish
something, congratulate yourself! Say
things like, “Wow, I’m really proud of myself for doing that. It wasn’t easy, but I pushed through the
rough spots and gave it my best shot.”
You can also make a point of simply giving yourself positive self-talk
daily. Recite affirmations like
these: “I am a valuable person. I have a lot to offer the world. I’m talented and successful.” The more you do it, the more you’ll come to
believe it! You must convince yourself
that NO ONE is a complete failure! When asked why he had failed so many times in
producing his electric light bulb, Thomas Edison said: “I haven’t failed – I’ve
just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.”
You may need some help in finding the right words to describe your “best
side.” See if you can find what you need
here https://zety.com/blog/words-to-describe-yourself
The above will help you get a start on
improving your ability to look at yourself and see the wonderful person you
truly are, or the person you can become with a bit of adjustment. Just continue to remember that your greatest
hurdle will be in overcoming yourself!
You will be your own worst enemy – because we’re only human!
QUOTE TO CONSIDER
"If you can't love yourself,
you will never love others."
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