Sometimes you feel the breeze gently flowing through your hair and the hot summer sun warming your face. You begin to think that it would be nice to stay here and let ALL your other responsibilities just fade into the background. But you know it wouldn’t be right to do this. Too many people depend on you. Too many people are waiting for the decisions that you have to make. Too many people are waiting for YOU to take action and hopefully solve the problems in THEIR lives.
It seems that we let, or perhaps we build, a place within ourselves that sparks that need to be wanted and loved. And we feel that by continually giving of ourselves is the way that we will endear the affections of others. Perhaps we think that without this constant outpouring of our very souls NO ONE will truly love us the way we need to be loved. There’s nothing wrong with having a loving disposition: A deep desire to use our lives in the benefit of others. But there’s also nothing wrong with occasionally taking “personal” time and caring for our own needs. You can certainly understand that while outpouring our feelings in activities for others we must “recharge” our own batteries from time to time less we reach a point where there just isn’t anything left to give! Then how could we continue to be of any assistance to others if we ourselves were “empty?”
How we do this “recharging” and for how long is going to vary from person to person. But it truly is a necessary activity. Your own body and mind will inform you when it is time. You’ll get that “I can’t go on another step” feeling in yourself and you’ll know you need to do something “for you!”
For men this need is certainly different for them than it is for women. Women may need to spend a day at the spa or hair salon. Or they may just want to go shopping for the day. Men may want to do something more physical: play sports or go to the gym. Of course, this will also may vary. There may be those women who want to do something more physical and some men may want to go shopping. And there is nothing wrong with these activities for either. Also, either of them may want more “get away” time and go on a “special” vacation! You will have to find what works for YOU! I find in my own case, if it’s not writing, I like to play the computer games Minesweeper or Mahjong. It seems that mentally concentrating on the solutions to the puzzles relaxes me and I feel ready to go again on some work assignment. I know, it sounds crazy, but that’s what works in my case.
He real “trick” is to NOT let the relaxation part of your “recharging” become the primary activity in your life. You must keep all things in balance. When you do this ALL things fall back into place and you are, once more, ready to face the world and all its problems. How you handle this balancing act within your own life is going to be the factor that determines your success or failure, your happiness or your sadness. Just always remember; however, it’s not a fail or pass scenario. It’s just a matter of determining where adjustments need to be made and making them!
QUOTE TO CONSIDER
THOUGHTFUL GEM
"One simple act of kindness
is a powerful force for good."
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