I wonder at
times how different things would be if more people paused before they acted or
said something. I know I can think back
on more than one occasion where I now wish I had done that. There are times when you open your mouth, the
words fall out, and you immediately wish you could “suck them” back into your
mouth! And you add to that many times
when you did something and then wish you could hit the “undo” button and have
it all disappear as if it had never happened.
Or perhaps, at least, have changed the way you did it! Because of such actions or speech you are “reminded”
YEARS later that maybe it wasn’t the best thing to have said or done at
that time!
Or maybe it
was one of those times when you disclosed a ‘secret” from your heart to someone
you thought would respond favorably, or at least, would be understanding to
your feelings. Then you learned that was
NOT a very good thing to have
done at that moment. Again, years later,
you continue to be inflicted by the pain of having done or said what you
did! It just seems to me now, and maybe
this is because with the passage of time comes wisdom, that you should have –
paused – and really thought this matter through. I’m certain we have ALL had such
experiences in our lives and can fully understand what I am talking about.
There’s a good
possibility that if we had only paused --- thought of some of the pain,
suffering and heartache we could have saved ourselves: Remember when that guy at the bar told you “Let’s
take this discussion outside!” Maybe you
should have taken a moment, paused, and maybe decided NOT to go outside with him.
Ladies remember when your best girl friend told you: “Oh, honey! This is going to make your hair look
beautiful!” Don’t you wish now you had
paused and thought it over more carefully BEFORE you went ahead and did
it anyway? And when was the last time
your wife told you the car was making “that funny sound” again and you told
her: “Honey, ALL cars make that sound sooner or later.” Looking back maybe you should have paused and
given some serious thought to the wise reminder she was trying to give
you. Especially should you think about it when you’re
sitting in the car stranded in the “middle of nowhere!” It would have probably been a LOT less
expensive than it turned out to be only if you had listened!
We both know
that this list could go on and on. Let’s
be honest when we look back: probably MOST of these types of situations
could have been avoided or perhaps the results lessened to some degree if we
had only stopped --- paused --- and given some serious consideration to the
results that are going to develop. Could
doing this illuminate ALL bad
decisions we make? Probably not! But maybe many of them could be. However, we all become responsible for the
decisions we make and must accept and live with the results.
So the next
time we are faced with a decision (one that IS NOT a life or death
immediate type of decision) maybe we should pause for a few minutes, or even “sleeping
on it” overnight might not be a bad idea.
Whether we will or not is an entirely different subject. But we should, at least, give ourselves the
option to reconsider what our decision may be.
Considering all that has been written, now I’m wondering if I should
have even written this blog on the subject.
Well maybe I’ll just hit the “delete” button - - - - - - or maybe NOT!
THOUGHTFUL GEM
"You can't make a change for the better if you keep doing
the same mistakes that cause failure."
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