Having self-esteem issues can
be detrimental to your health and negatively affect your personal and
professional relationships. There are many reasons why you may have low
self-esteem — your genes, how and where you grew up, and other life
circumstances all play a role.
A major factor of low
self-esteem, however, comes from your own mental state. Your inner voice,
or the thoughts in your head, can be constantly telling you that you are not
good enough or worth anything, even if there is evidence to the contrary.
Negative thinking in general is linked to low self-worth and low self-esteem.
To get a better understanding of the signs
of low self-esteem perhaps you could visit https://www.webmd.com/mental-health/signs-low-self-esteem
One of the best (and simplest) means of
helping to overcome a problem of low self-esteem is to fill your mind with positive
affirmations. However, what stops most
people is the uncertainty of what to say, and how to word affirmations for
optimal effectiveness. Below you’ll find
some simple tips to help you write effective affirmations for improving your
self-esteem.
1) Present tense. First, it’s helpful to word affirmations in
present tense, not future tense. You
wouldn’t want to say, “I will learn to love myself” because that makes it sound
like you’ll get around to it “someday.”
Instead you could say, “I choose to love myself.” The wording of that affirmation does two
things: it empowers you with the
addition of the words “choose to,” and it puts the timeframe in the present
moment. This is something you can do for
yourself several times during the day.
2) Believable. At the same time, your affirmations should be
believable to you. If you tried to say,
“I am a wonderful person with a lot to offer the world,” you may not really
believe that, so your subconscious mind might reject it. Instead, try to focus on a process rather
than an end result in your affirmations.
Say something like, “I am learning to embrace my uniqueness and share it
confidently with others.” As you continue to improve in your self-esteem, you
can relate other statements that your mind will accept as believable.
3) Use the right tone. When you recite affirmations, you can do so
aloud or just mentally, but you should focus heavily on the TONE you
use. Rather than saying the words
without emotion like you were reading a newspaper – really inject an element of
love and tenderness into them. Your
subconscious mind picks up on the emotional aspect of what you’re saying more
than the actual words. Imagine the
difference between saying the words, “I really love myself” with a tone of love
and compassion, or sarcasm. Which do you
think would have a greater impact on your subconscious mind?
4) Repetition. Once you’ve got some affirmations formed to
work on your self-esteem, try repeating them several times a day. Remember, your subconscious mind is
constantly playing back old, negative messages – so you want to counteract
those as much as possible. Keep reciting
your more positive thoughts on a regular basis - especially when you become
aware that you’re thinking negatively about yourself. Learn to reject those negative thoughts and
continue to fill your mind with positive thoughts about yourself.
5) Give it time. Finally, remember that it will take time to
change those old, negative messages in your mind to something more
positive. It may take a few weeks or
even months before you’ll notice an obvious difference in how you feel, and you
may be tempted to think it isn’t working.
Keep with it, and you will begin to see a difference
eventually! Most likely it will be a
gradual change. Little by little you’ll
start feeling more positive, and notice that you’re feeling a bit happier and
lighter. That’s your signal that your
positive affirmations are working!
Also, don’t forget, there may be others
who because of their personal feelings about themselves may not be happy
with the improvements you are making within your own life. They may try to imply that you’ll never be
able to improve your self-esteem, so why try? Don’t listen to them! Sadly, that’s the way we are as imperfect
people. Remember: We’re Only Human!
QUOTE TO CONSIDER
THOUGHTFUL GEM
"Nobody really knows what a GREAT
person you are --- but YOU!"
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