The action
or fact of persuading someone or of being persuaded to do or believe something
is what is involved in the powerful force of persuasion that some have
developed over others. It has been
written about (Persuasion by Jane Austen, available on https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/6399/persuasion-by-jane-austen/
), it has been produced as a movie. A 1995
period drama film directed by Roger Michell and based on Jane Austen’s 1817
novel of the same name. You may find a
copy at https://www.amazon.com/Persuasion-Susan-Fleetwood/dp/B00003JRCQ
. It was also remade as a 2007 TV
movie. You may find that at https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0844330/
.
However,
in more personal relationships, it is almost unthinkable that someone could be
persuaded to say or do something that they might otherwise not even consider. There are individuals who have fashioned a career
out of the art of persuasion. If you
want a little advice on being more persuasive consider the following:
You may
want a raise at work. Or maybe you want
to go out with that “special” friend who has always refused you in the past. The one I love the most stated: “Maybe you
want that extra barbeque sauce with your chicken and NOT have to pay the
extra fifty cents!” You have to do
something about it! No one is just going
to give it to you!
An article
posted several years ago (https://www.businessinsider.com/6-ways-to-persuade-anyone-of-anything-2016-7
) listed some things that may help you in any of the above situations (or many
others for that matter) to persuade someone toward your opinion.
1.
Be confident. Their main objective here tells you the more
confident you are, the more convincing your arguments are going to sound, and
the more powerful you’re going to appear.
Don’t be afraid if you don’t feel confident --- just act
confident!
2.
Introduce
a logical argument. When someone is persuaded to do something,
they do it because they have come to believe it is the right or best thing to
do.
3.
Make
it seem beneficial to the other party. This may not
always be easy to do, but in making your request seem valuable for the other
party you will be able to convenience them of your side of the issue.
4.
Choose
your words carefully. Some words have a greater perceived value
than others. Use them judiciously. It would perhaps be better to tell someone a
certain action would be more “lucrative” than merely saying “good” or “better.”
5.
Use
flattery. Be careful and cautious in how you approach
this topic, but everyone likes to have their egos stroked! Just make sure you do in a subtle manner.
6.
Be
patient, but persistent. Your attempts at being persuasive may not be
successful on the first attempt.
However, do not give up. Be
persistent! You may have to let the
situation sit for the moment, recollect yourself, and try again at a later more
convenient time. Remember, persuasion is a skill, and with any skill it will take
time and practice to perfect.
I think we
could better understand this developed skill if we sat in a court room and
watched the attorneys for the defense and prosecution as they banter back and
forth, arguing their cases before the judge and jury. It is an art style that is almost impossible
to imagine.
To fully
understand the nature of our human makeup when considering how WE are
influenced or persuaded in various areas of our life you may enjoy watching a
30-minute video which explores this subject.
It is an interview of Robert Cialdini, the author of the book Pre-Suasion
by Inc. president Eric Schurenberg at https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9gP_rv8VB-U
What you will find in its conclusion
is that we’re only human!
QUOTE TO CONSIDER
"The needs of the many,
outweigh the needs of the few."
Spock
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